time; the indefinite continued progress of existence and events in the past, present, and future regarded as a whole
“I’ve also concluded that whatever God does, that’s the way it’s going to be, always. No addition, no subtraction. God’s done it and that’s it. That’s so we’ll quit asking questions and simply worship in holy fear.
Whatever was, is.
Whatever will be, is.
That’s how it always is with God”
Ecclesiastes 3: 14-15 (MSG)
You can’t see past today, and you can’t re-envision yesterday. When you’re younger you want to fast forward time, and when you’re older you want to stop it. But, to this day, no one has come up with a solution to solve that one. Time is an asset that will expire and doesn’t inquire interest. It’s here today and literally, gone tomorrow.
1. You can’t wait forever, but you can wait for a time
Nothing will come when we want it to. Our flesh is deceiving. It wants things that we are not yet ready to carry. We want kids when we’re still raising ourselves, want a husband or wife when contentment has never even crossed our minds, and we want a fancy car when we haven’t even paid off our student loans. Or, if you want to go spiritual, we want the calling before the call. We want the promise before the process has even begun. All in all, if we want the “David life,” we can’t not wait through the David years.
There will come a time when a waiting season will be over – so when that does come, don’t be so comfortable in the waiting that you are scared to actually move into the promise God has now brought to fruition. We are creatures of habit. It’s easier to stay than to change. Don’t take the easy road, take the harder one. Eventually the harder one will become your routine, and another ‘harder’ one will come along.
Again, if you are waiting – hold steadfast to wait, but yet if it’s time for you to act, don’t deny the change.
2. Let people go, then let people come
Seasons change. Those wonderful kids you spent your childhood with, might still be around – but in most cases 90% of them are not. Does it mean you can’t still reminisce and think about them – of course not. But it does mean that you have to take that lesson with you through every single season of your life. College, post college, marriage, kids, retirement. In all of these seasons God does something so beautiful – He gives you who you need, WHEN you need them.
You can’t hold onto everyone forever, you can love them, celebrate precious moments alongside them, but eventually everyone has to let people go.
Once you learn to let go, you will be able to receive so much more. New people will come into your life – and just as I mentioned about, we are creatures of habit. Some of us want to have the same friends, go to the same restaurants, and all wear pink on every Wednesday forever. That’s not life, and frankly, it’s just not fun. People change, we grow, we become different people, so in turn, new different people are now a better fit then they could have been before.
Learn to let people go, so that, you can learn to embrace the new friends you have not yet been able to discover.
3. You can’t go back, but you can move forward
I will never be prom queen. I will never graduate as Valedictorian. And I will never be Miss Texas. I can’t go back. And honestly, even if I could, I don’t know how many things I would want to change. Every single thing in my life has happened with a purpose, for a process, with a promise in mind. The promise of “immeasurably more…” (Ephesians 3:20). Each of us have a past, and if you’re reading this, you at least have the future of today.
I was once driving back from visiting a friend in Houston, and I remember driving away and looking back to the Houston skyline. It was blurry, it was distant, and it didn’t look as great as it had just 30 minutes prior when I was there.
You see? Even if we could go back, even just to see it, it would be blurry, feel emotionally and physically distant, and it wouldn’t have the same impact. For us to have a successful future, we have to learn to let go of our past.
Let go of your past, turn your eyes from the rear view to the full panel window right in front of you. Stay dreaming, don’t give up on what might not be yet, and hold fast to what could be.
They aren’t intensive theological backed points or opinions, but frankly, it’s solid advice from someone who has lived it, breathed it, and been shown it by the one who created everything in HIS time.
Whatever life stage you are in, enjoy it. Live it. Take it all in – and no matter what may come, choose to trust that in the moment of your greatest joy, God has another one coming right after it.
“If the Lord delights in a man’s way, He makes his steps firm; though he stumble, he will not fall, for the Lord uphold him with His hand.” Psalm 37:23-24